You probably already know what a comet is, most of us learn about them at some point in time. But today we aren’t talking about these outgassing masses flying around in space, but rather the term comet in the polyamorous community.
A comet in polyamory shares a trait with comets like Halley’s comet, one of the first comets that many of us learn about. Polyamorous comets are relationships that aren’t always present in the daily life of each other. You may not see your comet every week, every month, or even for months, and occasionally years at a time, but these relationships inevitably return to our orbit and when they do the experience can be just lovely.
Another term I have heard used, and which I have also adopted, is Pause & Resume Partner (P&RP). Some may hold P&RP to be separate from a Comet, as this could also apply to a relationship where it exists only under specific circumstances. But like many things with love, life and relationships, these terms are not always fixed and can mean different things to different people at different times.